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The importance of Goal setting

Here is a famous study that was carried out back in 1979 when a group of researchers decided to study the effect of goal setting.

They interviewed Harvard MBA graduates, asking this simple question, "Have you set clear, written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them?" Now you might be forgiven for imagining that Harvard MBA graduates would fit into the role of achievers, motivated, excel at all that they do, focussed etc.? Well, It turned out that only 3% of graduates had written goals and plans; 13% had goals, but they weren't in writing and an astounding 84% had no specific goals at all. 

Those statistics are quite startling really. But it gets even more interesting. Ten years later they interviewed the class again. They found that the 13% who had goals, but were not in writing, were earning twice as much as the 84% of students who had no goals at all.

But wait. it gets even better. They found that the 3% of graduates who had clear, written goals when they left Harvard were earning, on average, 10 times as much as the other 97% of graduates all together.  Read that again...of them all put together.

The only difference was the clarity of their goals when they started out! Don't get me wrong: I am not trying to ease your conscience by reassuring you that if Harvard graduates can't get it right why should you .

What I am saying is: if the key ingredient to getting it right is writing your goals down, then why not step up and write them down and achieve them?

Here is a guide:

End goals vs means goals:  Means goals are the goals that we set up on the terms of our society, but really they are a means to an end only. End goals are the goals you would like to look back on your life and have achieved when it is all over. So if your goal is to drive a porsche, an end goal would be to get the status that comes with it, a means goal would be about the passion rather then just a symbol for you.

 What are your end goals in relation to :

        Experience:  travel, spiritually, in terms of family, sights, sexually, physically, emotionally.

        Growth:  relationships, friends, work, play, health, physical, regards health

        Contribution: how would you like to make a difference in the lives of others: what would you like to teach, influence, deliver, be it your time, expertise, charity, knowledge, to the earth, people animals, environment etc

How to set a goal

SMART GOALS are:

Specific, and stated in the positive

Maintained within your control (does not require anyone else to do or change)

Achievable, action is required

Realistic, responsible and the knock on effect is acceptable to you

Timing and testable (ie. the success of the goal is measurable)
 

What you need to ask yourself when setting a goal

To get to the essence of your goal  - ask yourself some of the following questions:

What exactly do you want?

What will you have that you didn't have before when you get it?

When and where do you want it and not want it?

What will happen or change when you get what you want?

Is it within your control to get it or do you require someone else to do something or change their behaviour (if so, this is not a good goal for you)

What will you loose?

What am I willing to loose or give up on to achieve this goal?

What will happen in the rest of my life - secondary consequences that I haven't considered?

How will it affect my family, relationships, friends etc.

What will you gain?

Do you think that it is possible to achieve?

Is this goal in relation to your wants or others?

How will you feel, sound and look when you have it?

How important is this goal to you?

Are you moving towards something you want or is this about moving away from something?

Are you completely congruent with this goal, or is there something that will hold you back?

What resources do you have now, and what will I need to achieve my outcome?

What will you see, feel, experience emotionally when I have this goal?

 

Disclaimer: The journey of  healing, health and wellness is a deeply individual experiences, how long it takes and the results achieved, do vary from person to person.